At some point in a human’s life they will feel the pain of heartbreak. It is inevitable. Unfortunate, yet inevitable.
Time passes and there might still be some resentment and/or anger to whatever caused them said heartbreak. Thus ultimately posing the ever popular question “Who hurt you?” The human will then go on explaining, sometimes in grave detail, about who and/or what hurt them. At all times in these explanations the answer is incorrect.
Nothing and no one hurt you. You hurt yourself. However saying you hurt yourself makes you sound like you’re stupid. It’s okay. Sometimes humans are stupid. But that’s neither here nor there. Let me explain why you hurt yourself.
Most of the times humans hurt themselves it’s because they’re not paying attention to what’s happening in real time. Or in the current moment. Say for instance, your finger gets crushed by a door. Is it the door’s fault or yours? You see, the same thing happens in this “love” thing you humans speak of. You’re not paying attention to what’s happening in real time. You’re either dwelling in the past or overthinking the future. Picturing scenarios of what could be.
More often than not, humans love incorrectly. They fall in love with the things they imagine. They fall in love with what they imagined the person can be, based on the potential they see in that person. The human isn’t paying attention. All the signs are there that your finger will get slammed the door (you’re going to hurt yourself) but you’re not paying attention.
You fell in love with this person that doesn’t exist. You fell in love with this idea of what could be. You tried to be Lois Lane to a man that thinks he’s Batman. Maybe you didn’t love the person, you just love what they came with or had to offer you. Either way, you hurt you.